I was thinking about you tonight as I am getting ready for bed. Can’t wait to wake up at 3 am again. LOL. but, seriously, I don’t know if you guys experience this but the 3 am wake ups have been killing me.

I started to think… wait, is this menopause or is this grief?

Funny or not so funny that we can really try and justify or maybe we feel like we need to push through because we have to get stuff done. YET, our bodies are feeling the weight of our sorrow and that is not something to ignore.

What we are experiencing is very real—and it’s not just in our imagination or “just menopause/or perimenopause .” Grief, especially after the loss of a partner, can absolutely lead to deep exhaustion and sleep disturbances.

Here’s a few things I found in doing some research

Grief is not just emotional—it’s physical, neurological, and hormonal. The exhaustion I have been feeling most likely is coming from:

Emotional processing that drains our mental energy.
Heightened cortisol levels (our stress hormone), especially after trauma.
Interrupted sleep (like waking at 2–3 a.m. HELLLOOOOO) which prevents our body from entering restorative sleep cycles.

So, as I go to sleep, I pray that you would take some time, just like I am before bed, to just take a few moments to deep breathe in peace. Lower the lights in your room, limit the screen time and focus on YOU and the precious gift you are to your family.
Let you body, settle into bed and if you are waking up with a list in your head, try what I did the other night, I wrote it down in my notes in my phone and then I went right back to sleep. YAY!!

Let’s chat more about this tomorrow!

I’d love your take on it all!!

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