Today… I found myself making the bed and looking over to the side that was still made.

I remember fondly Lew saying to me… “Woman you don’t need to make the bed right away…I am just going to the bathroom.. let it get cold first”. He would chuckle… with that grin that would make me roll my eyes… and smile too…cause let’s face it, He was right.

You see, I have always been a get up and go gal.. “There’s got to be work to be done” We can’t be lazy and just sit in bed all morning.. Why couldn’t we??

Oh how I wished this morning I could have taken back all of my jumping up to “get it done” in the name of what… to just sit with him and drink my coffee and laugh at life together…

Isn’t it interesting that we now can look back and see where we should have held on more tightly and hugged more deeply and of course laid in BED and had that coffee next to him more often than not.

He would be so shocked to know that I don’t rush out of bed any longer, that I get my coffee and sit in the bed and I don’t rush around. He’d be so happy too… I spend my time differently now…

There’s a tenderness in these mornings now.
A slowness I never gave myself permission to have before.
I didn’t know then what I know now…

but I know it now.

And maybe that’s part of loving him still—
living the moments we didn’t always take,
and letting them matter today.

He’d be so proud of me…

If you are struggling with thoughts that maybe you didn’t do enough or you didn’t spend enough time loving him deeply… I just want to remind you of something, YOU did love him.

You still do!!

We weren’t perfect, yet we loved them deeply and we now know the preciousness of that love. We can let ourselves off the hook of not being enough and remember WE were their person as much as they were ours…they never expected perfection from us.

Hugs to you,
Gina~

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