This past week, I sat at a round table grief group with a widow-psychologist. Who shared with me about her loss.

As we talked, I shared my analogy of grief being like a river. There are calm moments where you feel steady, but then a song, a memory, or even the air outside can pull you into the rapids. And in those rapids, you wonder, will I get through this?

She nodded and said, “That’s exactly how it feels.” Then she added: “ There are psychology journals that say grief should be over in six months, that if you are grieving longer than six months this is called prolonged grief disorder” she then went on to say “I bet the person who wrote that had never lost someone significant because grief doesn’t follow a neat calendar..”

Later that week, I spoke with another psychologist who hasn’t lost a spouse. She looked at me after I was sharing something significant that happened to me, (I’ll share this in our meeting) and then she asked: “Don’t you find it fascinating that you still get triggered in your grief journey… almost two years later?”

It blew me away and then again it didn’t, because unless you’re a widow, you can’t understand the hustle of widowhood. The fear of paying bills alone. The weight of the mortgage or rent. The responsibility of showing up for your family when your own heart is shattered. The triggers don’t disappear — they’re woven into every part of this new life.

Here’s what I’ve found almost two years in:
💜 My fears and doubts still resurface, but I recognize them now — and they no longer control me like they once did, maybe because I stopped thinking I was broken.
💜 I’ve taken on projects I never would have dared before, knowing that I am capable of more than I ever thought I was.
💜 I’ve discovered a strength in myself I never imagined was there, even if I didn’t ask for that strength.

So if you’re still grieving — hear me: you are not broken. You’re not “behind” Whether you’re 3 months, 2 years, or 10 years in, you are carrying a weight that only widows understand. And you are doing it. That is something to be proud of. So if you want to get fascinated by anything, be fascinated by how beautifully you are dealing with life as is, right now.

That’s why I created Grief and Me, our free space for widows to connect without judgment 100% This space is for the widow who wants to just share her week and feel ok saying what needs to be said.

And it’s also why I built A New Way to Stand — a deeper, 3-month program to help you carry grief differently, discover your strength, and step into life with new awareness.
I have a few scholarship spots available, because I believe every widow deserves support.

🌿 If this sounds like something that you are interested in, Spots are limited, so email me back and we can get you on the list. and as always, I’d love to walk this journey with you.

Ps…The link for Grief and Me is in this email. Just click that link and you will be let into our group meeting. See you Thursday my friends.